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In this blog, I’ll to try to de-mystify this process.

First of all, congratulations! Believe it or not, the hardest part is done. You’ve decided. Next…

  1. Decide on your priorities. Is it most important that therapy be covered by insurance? That the therapist is nearby? That the therapist have a particular trait (e.g. gender, age, race, orientation)? That they practice a certain style of therapy? Once you’ve decided on one or two things that are most important, you can start to narrow your search
  2. Use a search tool. I recommend PsychologyToday’s “Therapist Finder.” Most therapists with some sense of self-awareness pay a small fee to be on this search engine, and you can read a brief bio, see a photo, and filter by insurance, location, gender, etc. If this feels overwhelming, consider Googling “Therapist in (your city here).” This can be bulky, and may just bring up the folks that pay the most for advertising, but it gets you started. You can also use your insurance company’s website—they usually have a “find a provider” link that will guide you by location, only to therapists that accept your insurance.
  3. Do your research. Once you’ve found a few therapists that look promising, and meet your most important criteria, Google their name. Read whatever you can find—articles that talk about them, articles/blogs that they’ve written, reviews, experience, etc. Sometimes you’ll score and find a resume online, but anything you see/read gives you some insight into this person (to whom you plan to entrust your deepest, darkest secrets). Anything helps.
  4. Talk to them. Many therapists will agree to do a brief meeting with you, free of charge, prior to setting up ongoing appointments. At the very least, they will talk to you over the phone. If they aren’t willing to chat for a few minutes, and answer a few questions, you can probably write them off. Take the time to ask them how they approach therapy, what you can expect from them, their thoughts on depression, anxiety, fill-in-the-blank, and what they might do to treat it. Make sure they’ve treated your issue in the past. If the conversation feels comfortable (enough), proceed and schedule.
  5. Go to your first appointment, or two or three. Once you’re in that first appointment, you really want to pay attention to your rapport with the therapist. Do you feel like you’re connecting? Like you can talk to them? Let me be clear—this isn’t just about whether you like the person or not; it’s whether you feel like they’re hearing you, whether you can imagine having an ongoing relationship with them. Research has resoundingly supported the primary importance of the therapeutic relationship in the outcome of therapy.
  6. Feel free to play the field. If you’re not sure that the therapist you’ve seen once is the right fit for you, go ahead and see another one or two. Then it’s up to you—pick the one that you think understands you best, has the ability to challenge you, and will be tolerable to see on a regular basis for an extended period of time.
  7. Ask for referrals. If, after all this, you get somebody on the phone who feels/sounds like a good fit, and they don’t take your insurance, or aren’t accepting new clients, ask them for referrals. Generally, good therapists know other, similar good therapists. You don’t have to start over.

The above recommendations don’t guarantee a smooth and pleasant journey to the perfect therapist, but it gives you somewhere to start. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself, get enough sleep, eat well, and keep active. You’ll feel better soon.

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Finding A Therapist

by Dr. Amanda Mulfinger

But now what? All the questions:

  • What kind of therapist should I see?

  • What type of therapy?

  • Who’s covered by my insurance?

  • What should I even be considering as I make this decision?

So, after weeks, months, possibly years (yes, years), you’ve decided to start seeing a therapist. It’s such a relief to make that decision, right? And now that you’ve decided, you are ready to unload whatever it is that’s been weighing you down. And you’re ready to do it now.

At Cabot Psychological Services, we have a team of trained professionals who can assist you with your mental health needs. Whatever the issue, we can provide you with treatment options. Call or text 952-831-2000, email info@cabotpsychologicalservices.com or complete our Contact form.

Dr. Amanda Mulfinger is the Owner and President of Cabot Psychological Services in Edina, Minnesota. She studied psychology at Harvard University prior to receiving her master's degree and PhD from Auburn University.

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